Tracy's Nest

Thursday, March 30, 2006

Naughty Corner

I was reading Zara's mama post on 'Carrot and Stick' and caught my interest when I read on. Naughty Corner? I thought to myself and was grinning. Oh yes, Destinee does have her naughty corner too.
When Destinee was younger, I beat her once with my rotan (cane) on her leg. Actually I wanted to beat her on the buttock but she dodged and 'piak' the rotan went onto her calf (somewhere between the foot and knee) instead. It was a real teruk one with a deep rotan mark which swelled immediately and nearly bled. Pappy was obviously 'heart pain'.
After hitting her, I made her sit on the sofa and from then onwards whenever I reach for my rotan, she will shout frantically "mommy, ng moi dar Yau Yau" (mommy, don't beat Yau Yau) and at the same time she will be running to the sofa. So now, I seldom beat her with the rotan cos she knows what I'm going to do whenever I ask kakak 'mana rotan?'. Basically, the rotan is now used for threatening purpose and for using to 'sweep' things out from under the sofa or behind the TV stand.
At times even before I could reach for the rotan, she would be crying and quickly reaches for the sofa. So, her naughty corner is sitting quietly on one corner of the sofa. I'll make sure she stops crying on her own and nobody is to go to/near her to soothe her (yes, not even pappy cos she'll be crying for pappy with her symphathetic looks and tears). When she stops crying, she'll come to me and I'll ask her 'why did mommy beat u?'. She'll say 'Yau Yau naughty lor'. But as usual, she'll forget the next moment and will be up to her naughty self again. *sigh* *roll eyes*
Destinee said:

Mommy wanted to beat me but before she could do so, I ran crying to the sofa and mommy made me sit on my 'naughty corner'. *help, help*

I noticed dat mommy was trying to take snapshots of me. I was trying to shield myself so dat she would forget about it.

Too bad, mommy ordered me to take away my hands so dat she could take snapshots of me crying. I was scared dat she would beat me so I had to obey and took away my hands unwillingly. How shameful!

After crying for a while, I was forced to stop when nobody bothered to take notice of me. Bad bad mommy, bad bad pappy and bad bad kakak! How could they do this to me? But never mind, I went to mommy and what I did was to say sorry to her, she forgave me and she even carried me.


At Thu Mar 30, 12:08:00 PM, Blogger shoppingmum said...

Wah, you "sei tak" beat her? I don't have a cane at home, really tak sampai hati leh...
But only once right? She's seems to be scared of the cane.

At Thu Mar 30, 12:16:00 PM, Blogger Egghead said...

cry till like that no one dare to beat lah :P
can be refer to as child abuse liao...LOL!

At Thu Mar 30, 01:06:00 PM, Blogger Jason said...

LOL~! Still ok what!

My mum no need to beat me, because my class teacher will do. She whacked one of my classmates until both hands were swollen and couldn't write.

When I was Standard 1, and my results from Top 10 drop to #39, my mum beat me until I had to run out of the house and my grandma "saved" me. :P

One time, my mum was angry and slammed the door and it hit my toe nail. The whoe thumb came up like a flag pole and she didnt bother.

My dad one time took nylon strings to beat me because ermm... was caught red handed for stealing.

Heh~! This rotan, nothing what! Child abuse pulak... Tsk!

At Thu Mar 30, 01:28:00 PM, Blogger Jesslyn said...

My hse got rotan too but hardly use to beat them...tak sampai hati lar!
Only use hand to smack them...hubby always get me beat Wien one time kau-kau wan, so that she learn from that...but me never never listen to him...for me beating is not the solution to teach our kids!

At Thu Mar 30, 02:04:00 PM, Blogger Zara's Mama said...

She looks so 'cham'.. This mummy really use rotan ah? You got sum-toong or not after that?

aiyo.. I'll be very sum-toong.

Eh.. Destinee looks so 'long' in these photos.. Legs long long, hands long long.. wah.. can be model next time. :P

At Thu Mar 30, 02:41:00 PM, Blogger blurblur said...

Wah, you really cane ah?? I can't bear to, the most i use is my 'iron hand'..haha..can be worse than the cane, that's what my hubby said lah...;p

Yup, i also noticed that she's 'long'..potential modelling element old is she huh? ;)

At Thu Mar 30, 03:01:00 PM, Blogger Tracy said...

No cane at home? Justin's still too young to be beaten with the cane. I have 3 (got them from my MIL)! One on top of the TV, one on the computer table and another in the bedroom (heehee, all within reach).

Ya ya, I beat her once and now the rotans are for 'decoration' only and oso to threaten her. From dat day onwards, she's really scared of the cane.

Haiya, what child abuse lar. I didn't even touch her, just ask kakak 'mana rotan?' only and she quickly 'flew' crying to her naughty corner liao.

Wuah lau eh! Didn't know u were such a naughty naughty little fella when u were small. Caught stealing? What did u steal? Ur dad's money?

No rotan in ur house too? Haiyo, don't let Destinee know about this.

Tak sampai hati? Maybe ur gals are well-behaved and more obedient than dat monkey girl of mine. U haven't got to know her yet. She's a very stubborn one (oops, maybe got my genes). Sometimes she really gets on my nerves e.g. tell her not to do, she'll do on purpose; not to climb, get a chair and climb and even climb up the grilles; not to jump, she'll jump from sofa to sofa or grilles; after bathing, try to get her into her clothes, she'll run everywhere until u catch her; tell her to brush her teeth, she'll say 'wait wait'and etc, etc, etc. Haiya!

Zara's mama:
Heehee, of course got 'sum tong'. My heart is not made of steel leh and I quickly apply ubat on her wound (psst, psst, I nearly was in tears leh).

Long meh? Maybe she's skinny dat makes her look 'long'.

Heehee, Damien got ur five-finger-palm marks after got beaten by ur iron hands lor?

Long hands and legs and a skinny body, dat's what she's having. *roll eyes*

At Thu Mar 30, 03:58:00 PM, Blogger Jesslyn said...

Jason: u so cham ha? should report to child abuse center lor! LOL....

At Thu Mar 30, 04:19:00 PM, Blogger Ryan Boy said...

Destinee jeh jeh, so "cham"!
I got "rotan" at home also & kena beat by Ddy! actually not beat la just "touch" me only, and i will cry loudly...;(

Beware, the Child's Abuse Center will come to you soon... untie Tracy!

At Fri Mar 31, 11:11:00 AM, Blogger mumsgather said...

I use my laser stare! If she asks me to "wait" or runs away when I try to dress her, I'll just tell her I'm not waiting, pretend to walk away and she'd come immediately. Hehe. Works everytime.

At Fri Mar 31, 01:09:00 PM, Blogger magictree said...

I use the rotan too but I dont' hit hard. The daddy hits really hard so the boys are very scared of their dad. Most of the time I only have to ask "Where's the rotan" , they would behave. No2 is very cheeky , if he does anything naughty ( breaking things) he will immediately go and say sorry to his dad and that it was 'accidently'.

Even my maid said it is hard to get angry with No2. My personal opinion is , if I have been taking care of my kids, loving them etc, even when they get disciplined they will know their mom still loves them. So I don't agree with all those 'voilence' claim with regards using the rotan.
(Of course use sparingly and up to a certain age only)

At Fri Mar 31, 01:59:00 PM, Anonymous maria @ twinsmom said...

ai yoh... when I read this Annabelle so happen come to me, and she asked me what happen to jie jie, I said jie jie naughty her mommy beat beat lor.
ai yoh... cham lor... her eye red liao and said "don't beat jie jie lar, pain pain wor, jie jie so sad..." ai yoh...

see? no beat heart pain, beat also heart pain how?

ai yoh... I just realised i write so many ai yoh...

At Fri Mar 31, 02:16:00 PM, Blogger Tracy said...

Cham meh? If dat Jason was sooo naughty, I guess his parents oso 'buih tahan' him and dat was why he got the treatment.

Leng Jai Ryan:
Wah, u oso know how to pretend ar? Touching u oso cried so loudly oredi. Actually my mommy knows dat sometimes I'm pretending and trying to attract some symphaties from her but only to anger her more. *tongue out*

Pls. Leng Jai Ryan, don't report my mommy to the Child Abuse Center. Actually she didn't beat me, I always start to cry whenever I know I'm in the wrong and whenever she reach for her cane. I can't do without her cos nobody will feed me, hum me to sleep, play with me, teach me, love me like she does.

I tried dat too (the 'laser' stare) but now it won't work on her. She's only scared of the rotan.

I don't believe in using violence in disiplining kids too.

It's true dat however 'fierce' I'm towards my girl, she'll always clings to me. And however naughty is my girl, I'll always love her.

At Fri Mar 31, 03:19:00 PM, Blogger Tracy said...

Ur Annabelle is so cute. So, tell her not to be naughty like jeh jeh lor.

Hahahahaha, u and ur 'ai yohs'.

At Fri Mar 31, 03:30:00 PM, Blogger Baby Smooches said...

Brendan's naughty corner doesn't exist. He runs to grandma. If grandma 'piak' him, he runs to me. If I 'piak' him, he runs to kakak. Kakak doesn't 'piak'him. But he kakak not around, he 'piak' mei-mei

At Fri Mar 31, 04:49:00 PM, Blogger Adrian & Alvan said...

I not dare to buy the rotan, scare myself out of control beating Adrian.
When he naughty, I beat him with my hand, then I know how pain is he when I beat him mah.

At Fri Mar 31, 06:57:00 PM, Blogger Tracy said...

Long time didn't hear from u. Welcome back.

Brendan's smarter and has his ways of finding consolation and last resort cannot find kakak, 'piak' mei mei instead. Hahahahaha.

Wei, glad dat u are back too.

U have ur ways of dealing with Adrian by beating him with ur hands? Ur hands not painful meh? I did beat Destinee with my hands before. My hands will be red and so painful but she felt nothing. *duh* So use my trusty cane better (heehee).

At Sat Apr 01, 01:01:00 AM, Blogger 1+2mom said...

I didnt used any cane for so long cause i saw the mark after beat my son my heart very pain. My gals didnt tried any cane b4, maybe they well behaved then my son gua. Or maybe i can 'tahan' cause my son naughty then them..haha.

At Sat Apr 01, 12:21:00 PM, Anonymous michelle said...

Wah cannot cry in peace, have to pose for camera some more.

At Mon Apr 03, 12:39:00 AM, Blogger shiaulin said...

yee... "the rotan is now used for threatening purpose and for using to 'sweep' things out from under the sofa or behind the TV stand" sounded familiar here leh... hahaha...

I too have naughty corner for Xuan. whenever he is naughty, i just need to say "去站住!go stand there" (without even point to the corner), he will faster go and stand there until i call him. :P

At Mon Apr 03, 03:39:00 AM, Blogger Blogie-Talkie said...

Can't buy rotan in Canada. I use my palm, Spanking is against the law here (Abuse kids). All kids over here are tought in school, once they're physical hurt, they can report to Police.They your child will be taken away by social worker.

Appropriate spanking is assential, I think. But is Spanking the only solution? we parent tent to expect immediatly result, we have no time for kids to whynign and kacau-kacau.. so we use force. this method was pass down from our parent. we inherrit to our generation.
What to do...? I think what Marial say on her blog(title: Don't scold them, they not my kid) may be a way to pratice. but this take time..

No offence,, just sharing my thought for your article today.Thank you.

At Mon Apr 03, 10:43:00 AM, Blogger Tracy said...

1+2 mom:
Sylvia, I really must salute u - having to take care of 3 'little monkeys'. Who's not 'heart pain' after beating one's own kid leh? It's good dat ur twins are well-behave and u need not worry about them.

Tit for tat. She didn't let me have my peace so I didn't want her to cry in peace too. Hahahahaha! Kidding only. Just wanted to take some pics for remembrance and to let her know dat she did have a 'naughty corner'.

So, Xuan has his naughty corner too? At least when u are a little stern, he's scared but not with my Destinee. She's a very stubborn one.

Oops! Luckily I'm not in Canada, else I might have landed myself in 'jail'.

No worries, no worries Blogie-Talkie, it's good to share views from ur side. And u are most welcome to my blog.

At Tue Apr 04, 10:18:00 AM, Anonymous maria @ twinsmom said...

oii... you also stay at the naughty corner liao?

At Fri Apr 07, 11:11:00 PM, Blogger TWO LITTLE FELLAS said...

seeing Destinee snug up crying in her naughty corner...make me wanna' cry ogether with her :(

At Mon Apr 10, 12:53:00 PM, Blogger Tracy said...

Adoi, ya lor, I'm oso at my naughty corner oredi. *boo hoo hoo*

Oh oh, don't be deceived by her. She's very good at 'begging' for symphaties. After the cryings, she'll be up to be naughty self again .... sigh ....

At Wed Feb 28, 10:33:00 AM, Blogger Jessie Woo said...

Tracy .. we have the same SOFA :P

At Wed Feb 28, 10:48:00 AM, Blogger Tracy said...

Haha, really *Hi Five*


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