Conclusion to: To or Not To
I had a talk with Pappy yesterday nite when I found he was in a good mood. *grin*. I understand why Pappy was so against my wish for blogging now. He indeed has his own reasons. He has his doubts cos of the recent news dat kids being kidnapped and murdered.
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The most recent being an eight-year old girl who was kidnapped from her house. It seemed dat the little girl's mom befriended a guy through a newspaper advertisement and had communicated with him via SMS for a year. The little girl was later found murdered! And the suspect denied kidnapping the little girl and was released after remand!
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I told him I shudder upon hearing and reading these kind of news too. I tried to explain to him dat my blogger frens are all mommies and daddies and I even showed him some of the blogs. U know what he said? He said, "How do u know? U don't really know them. People can just do anything on and from the net." "What?" I asked. "Bloggers are going to cheat me? And of what?" "Aiyo, I'm not those sap-putt-ya-yi mui mui jai lar" (18-22 year-old girls). *roll eyes*
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Okay, can't blame Pappy for being so worried and sceptical. I then asked him, "U met Jess, Mr. Mok and their two little girls when we were in Malacca and do u think she's somebody with bad motives?"
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He was speechless for a while and then he twisted by saying: "Aren't u wasting ur time by blogging and blog hopping? Why would and why do u like to know about others from the net?" I understand what he was trying to say. Meaning dat, after all, I have my own circle of frens and still want to be so 'keboh' (busybody) to know more frens and of all places from the net and I'm not 'earning' anything from blogging. He told me he saw me taking wasting time uploading the photos ... *duh* ... Talking to him sometimes is like talking to a 'ngau pei tang lung' (cow's hide lantern – stubborn).
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I can't imagine what he'll be thinking if one day I'm to say "I'm going to meet my blogger frens" .... Completely shut me off from blogging? Cancel my broadband? Not dat serious kua? He's the typical China-type of man who doesn't like to talk much and not good at conversations (okay, I'm not saying I'm talkative or good at conversations). I, sometimes, call in Chinaman Ah Pek, and to think of it, he's so much younger than me and with such a 'lou gu tung' (antique) mind. And I'm not saying he controls me (seems dat I'm the one who controls him, heehee).
I can't imagine what he'll be thinking if one day I'm to say "I'm going to meet my blogger frens" .... Completely shut me off from blogging? Cancel my broadband? Not dat serious kua? He's the typical China-type of man who doesn't like to talk much and not good at conversations (okay, I'm not saying I'm talkative or good at conversations). I, sometimes, call in Chinaman Ah Pek, and to think of it, he's so much younger than me and with such a 'lou gu tung' (antique) mind. And I'm not saying he controls me (seems dat I'm the one who controls him, heehee).
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I've been blogging for quite some time and so far I'm okay. I just hate the idea of giving up blogging and I love the articles I blogged about.
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Ha! Maybe I should hold a party – bloggers' party – invite all my blogger frens to come over to my place and meet Pappy in person. Hohoho, not a bad idea hor? U think he'll strangle me? Kekekekeke.
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Conclusion
Okay, I for the time being promised him I'll be very careful, I'll blog and blog hop when I'm free. So, fellow bloggers, I'll be lurking in ur blogs to keep myself updated with ur latest news and I'll be blogging once in a while (haiyo, I still have a few yet to be put up – still laying eggs in the draft).
posted by Tracy @ 1:15 PM
21 Comments:
okok, got your msg! btw, don't blame pappy, we can understand his doubt & worry!
wei, if got blogger party, let me know, see whether I able to attend or not? :P
My man also use the same example (8yr gal been murdered) to warn me against the danger of blogging. I wonder why men tend to be more reserve/scared than us women. I told him I'm not stupid like that woman who befriend "not3not4" person. And I don't reveal my address or phone number.
if it worries him so much.. stop posting photos of the family.. and try to reveal as little as possible about where you live and what you do..
My hubby is also like that.. but he's met some of my bloggers friend, so now he's ok.. But he still says don't know who else is reading my blog besides those who 'announce' themselves.
Which is kind of true.. a risk we have to take.
actually you are right...there could be other ppl whom you dont know that are lurking around without you knowing..i read somewhere in the blog that during the meetup of all bloggers at kepong, there was a lurker there? he mentioned in someone's blog that he was there observing everyone but didnt reveal himself.
hehe..my hubby is the same as your pappy leh, though he supports my blogging hobby, he would, every now and then, reminds me to be careful of what i write and post.
but mom2ashley's comments about the lurker really send shivers down my spine leh...sounds so scary...we can never know who else is reading our blog besides the familiar faces huh??
Understand Pappy thought too, ya is a kinda risk too.
So far Papa did not said anything abt me blogging, but must be caution lah, really dunno out there who read our blog mah..
Jesslyn:
Hahaha, if got blogger party in my place, sure won't leave u & family out and it'll definitely be during the weekends, don't worry.
Elaine:
Thanks for dropping by. Sorry to tell u dat I've been (lurking in) reading ur blog but didn't leave comments *tongue out*
Men are men. Always want to be 'dai lam yan' (big men). Maybe they are being too sensitive? But still prevention is better than cure, rite?
Oh? So, u won't reveal ur address and phone no.? Even if u've known us for a long time?
Zara's mama:
Oops, I've oredi revealed to some bloggers where I live, my tel. nos. and what I do. Die lor. Have to pindah, change my tel. nos. and change job lor. (heehee)
So, if I do meet bloggers, guess I'll have to drag Pappy along.
Actually, I post and put the photos is to allow my frens, relatives and my sis, who's in HKG, to read and see. BLEK to those who read with bad intentions.
Dinah:
Gosh! Is this true? Don't let Pappy read this, else I'm very sure I'll be banned from blogging.
Blur-blur:
Ya, ya, we have to be careful what we write. We really do not know who'll be reading our blogs hor?
I used to chat with this 'mommy' too but all she talked was about SEX. I "played" along with her for some time. I think some of the bloggers (whom I know) were 'victims' too. Later, we suspected 'she' was a 'guy' and we immediately blocked 'her'.
Rachel:
True, true, we have to take the risk and be careful. Or maybe we should Password Protect our blogs if there are photos?
Tracy you're back! :) You know, I met my hubby online. Back then a lot of people are naive with online chat, etc. It is understandable for Pappy to be cautious. Anyway, it's good to see you back in the blogsphere.
maybe avoid putting more photos and keep photos in another site with password for your friends to access?
just tell stories only, can ar?
hmm.. a bit protective .. but then that papi's way of showing he love u..
Vien:
*sob sob* I'm so glad I'm back. Just feel so restless without blogging and blog hopping.
Oh, u met ur hubby from the net? I know of another blogger who got to know her hubby from the net too.
Chanel:
Avoid putting photos in the blog will be very monotonous, don't u think so? Only words, words and words. Sometimes pictures will do the talking. Anyway, I'll be selective on the pics I post in future.
Robin:
Thanks for dropping by. O i c, u are a SIMPLE man! *grin*
FYI, Pappy loves his daughter more and dat's why he so protective. Over protective I should say.
mm..that 8 yrs old girl case really make us worried abt to know new frens online..remember the 'guy' we met at MJ website?? scary...
But so far Daddy did not 'blocking' me to blog..*piew* but we still need to be extra careful right..??
That's what my hubby's worrying too, especially I post my kids' pics on blogs. Gee, the world is getting sick. So I hope my blog is not popular and only read by REAL GOOD people. Well, still can't be certain huh?
Ngao pei dang lung is "lattern made of cow skin" not "cow hides lattern" ler. :P
Hehe, sometimes, I think people worries too much, as in way too much. As long as you don't disclose her name, birth certificate, home address, daily routine, where she studies and etc, I think it should be fine. However, have to be a little bit careful though.
Aiyah, blog only lah. So ma fan, this and that, that and this. Shit also not free liao loh. For example : We shouldn't shit too much because the tangki will get full one day. LOL.
mom2ashley : That was Failer, I think. One of Mr. Kiasi's friends, a student actually. Well, a few of my blogging friends met him personally, just that he's shy. Haha!
Your hubby sounds like your father. I think my hubby cannot survive w/o internet than me.
In blogging, try to omit personal details. If you are still afraid, don't put family pics, just scenary or food pics. By the way, do not blog ahead that you are going away on holiday too, someone may come and rob your place. Blog when you return.
Linda:
Ya lor, the news of the 8-year old girl was indeed very scary. How can this 'pin tai' person do such a thing to a little innocent girl and he's still at large and don't know how many innocent kids are going to be hurt.
I was actually telling Blur-blur about dat 'woman' too. I think Rachel and I were the first to chat with 'her'. But later we found dat something was wrong and we blocked 'her'.
Ya, ya, we've to be careful of what we post.
Shoppingmum:
Hahaha, the world's getting sick and there're lots of 'pin tai' people out there.
Ur blog is getting popular. So, better watch out! Ooops, heehee, just kidding lar.
Jason:
Ah Jason,okay, u win lar - lantern made of cow's kin. *duh*
Actually hor, I'm not too worried, it's Pappy who is sensitive.
Haiyo, what is ur shit thing doing in my blog?
So u know who the lurker is? Better ask him to be 'dai fong' a little and no need to be shy. Just introduce himself, dat's very easy mar.
Michelle:
Pappy sounds like my father? Hahahahaha.
Haiyo, he's not at all interested in the internet unless it's concerning cars.
Okay, 'sau dou' (received) ur msg. I'll try my best to be selective on the pics I'm going to post. I'm going to blog more on food. Kekekekeke. Anyway, thnx a lot.
Luckily my hubby not a chinaman. When i said want to meet my blogger friends he just ask me when and where. We both also meet some of the online game friends too. When i blog i will told him some of the blogger story (cause we both pc just site by site), so he know who is who.
Dearest Tracy,
Don't post anymore of my favorite niece or family pics lor. Just food will do lar
Well there was this case overseas where a lady who pretended to want to buy some puppies from another online upon learning that she was pregnant. They met up and the pretender "delivered" the baby from the pregnant one and tried to pass it off as her own and there are cases of murderers who wrote about their murderous intent in their blogs before they committed their crime and were caught. Really really scary stuff. Sounds extreme but it happened so there is no harm to err on the cautious side when online.
1+2 mom:
It's good dat ur hubby is understanding and even listens when u tell him about bloggers' blogs. I dare not even let him know I'm still blogging. I 'curi-curi' blog when he's not around. He's seldom in the office, so, I'll make use full use of the time he's not around (heehee).
June:
Aiyo, June ah June, I thought u'll understand but cheh!
Mumsgather:
Wah! Really scary leh. Just dunno know when these EFNTO ppl' will prowl on innocent and sincere bloggers.
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