New 'job' – full time SAHM

Full time SAHM (stay at home mom) ...... aarrrrggggggghhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!! Full time SAHMs, don't 'shoot' me, okay? Mommies who are so eager to become full time SAHM, u better 'sam si', think twice, thrice .... and properly, clearly, first. Okay, unless u don't have to do office work from home.

As most of u oredi knew, my maid left me for good (not coming back anymore) and went back to Indonesia after her contract ended. Pappy decided not to employ a new maid for me. *duh* So, I'm left alone to take care of Des, do the washing, ironing, cleaning, mopping, scrubbing the toilets, cooking ..... in other words ...... the work of a full time maid! (now I know it's not easy being a maid). And I need TO DO OFFICE WORK AT HOME too! *sob sob sob* poor me. No worries, no worries, I'm still sane and kicking!

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Waking up Des in the mornings is not an easy task, getting her to bed early is not an easy task, feeding her is not an easy task (she will take 'ages' to finish her food), getting her to do her homework is the most difficult task ...... sigh ...... She has homework almost every day and every day there will be either English, BM or Chinese writing. And she needs to prepare for reading and spelling tests too. She has reading every day, Ejaan every Tuesdays and 'ting xie' (Mandarin spelling). Who will be guiding her with all these? Of course ME lor, who else? ('kiasu and kiasi' mom?) One good thing is, I'm learning the Chinese writings with Des and she is teaching me. *clap clap clap*

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Des loves to dilly dally in doing her homework. I came up with telling her if she finishes her homework fast, she can play after dat if not she will have no time to play. Sometimes I do reward her with something she likes.

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Well, mommies with more than one kid might feel/say I'm hopeless, I can't even handle one kid (true, I'm hopeless with my kid whereas I can handle my frens' kids *duh*. Tell u hor, with more kids, they can play on their own and the elder ones (at least) can take care of the younger ones but with one kid, the kid will be very clingy and needs attention all the time.

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My free time will be when Des goes to school but will be the time when I need to do the household chores and when she take her naps, I need to do my office work and prepare dinner. I can see dat my house is more 'spick and 'span' after my maid left (ahem) cos she will just leave things here and there and everywhere. Okay, u can call me 'yim chim' (fussy) but every day I have to sweep and mop the floor, clear the dinner and kitchen table, arrange Des's toys, VCDs, DVDs, books in their proper places, dust the TV, TV cabinet, Pappy's and my working table.

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When my maid was around, the dinner and kitchen table will be full of 'things', Des's toys will be everywhere (some will be in the hall, in the storeroom, bedroom) and her books will be slotted in 'don't know where when Des needed them'. And especially my tupperware containers (FYI, I'm a tupperware crazy maniac), when I needed a container and when I opened my kitchen cabinet, my tupperware containers were like 'rojak' but NOW they are in their proper places (goodie goodie). I'm not trying to say my maid was not good, only dat sometimes still needed to be 'kicked' BUT she was very good at taking care of Des, honest and she didn't like to go out, very patient and loves Des very much for which I was most satisfied.

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I hope I won't go bonkers one day (choi choi choi). I don't know what about the rest of the SAHM but I can tell WORKING moms, it is NOT EASY being a SAHM without any help from anyone else (maids, in-laws, relatives staying together and esp. our dear moms). Staying alone sometimes can be very frustrating esp. when u need help and when u are all alone at home with ur kid. What if suddenly (I do imagine) I fainted or fall sick or when I fall and cannot get up and my neighbours are not around (aiyo, touch wood, touch wood). I'm sure SAHM will agree with me, don't u? Mommies out there who has their dear moms or MILs (cough cough until choke? heehee) to help around are really blessed.

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Pappy leh? This was what I commented in another 'yakkity yakkity' blog to Annie Q's post on "My Man"– 'After dinner, he will just sit on the sofa and starts reading his newspaper. BUT he will ask "Want me to help u wash the dishes ah?" Need to ask pulak?????!!!! I will tell him NO! Why? After he helps me wash, I need to 'chap kui keh sau mei' (clear all what he left) cos he will just leave the bowls, plates in another sink and leave the 'rubbish' in the sink for me to clear ..... sigh .....All he does is clean the ceiling fan which I don't ever touch and I'm not tall enough (with chair I cannot reach and we have no ladder) and he can't bear to see the dirt when he looks up.' But sometimes I need to understand dat he has lots of office work to take care of. If he doesn't grumble and allow me to grumble, I'll be most consoled (heehee). Any mommies out there wish dat u are still single? Hahahahaha!

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The best part is dat I can spend my time with Des, to teach/guide her with her homework and see her 'growing' and progressing every day.