Sad, Disappointed & Angry

Something which I would like to rant it out in my blog.

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A very 'used to be' close fren of mine visited me with her mom on the 7th day of CNY. Of course I was very happy to see her and her mom. We chatted for about an hour and she got to go cos I had to go out for lunch with my in-laws.
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After she left, I looked into what she brought me. I found a packet of 'fatt choi' (black moss) which looked so familiar to me. I got it out and checked. It was the same packet of 'fatt choi' which I gave her as a gift during CNY LAST year and not only dat, it was EXPIRED (2.1.07) too! Jialat or not? The packet of 'fatt choi' was covered with a plastic covering. The plastic was torn off at the expiry date and the date was blackened off with a marker. I could see the expiry date at a certain angle in the light. Goodness sake, if she needed to hide the expiry date, she should have done it in a neat way by blackening until one cannot see.

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I was really so disappointed and I emailed this to her:
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(her name),

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Just would like u to know something. Did u know dat the packet of 'fatt choi' u gave me dat day was the same as what I gave u as a gift last year? I noted dat the plastic cover was torn and the expiry date was blackened and expired. I still have a packet with me which I kept in the fridge and I made a comparison and the expiry date was exactly the same.

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If u don't like the 'futt choi', u should have given to someone else instead of 'returning' it back to me. I felt quite disappointed, u know?
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And u know what she replied?
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Ops ... very sorry I didn't realise it was from you , I thought it was from my sis in law, was kept in the drawer together with the rest. It was definitely not meant to be returned to you. Thousand appology .... really feel embarrass lah.
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D**n it! She meant to say she didn't know she had the expiry date blackened? Or she meant to say when I gave her the packet it was oredi blackened? Cannot be. When I gave her last year it was still not expired. Showed dat she didn't appreciate what I had given her.

I really dunno know what really got into her. She used to be one of my very, very close frens where we could talk about almost anything including very personal things.

She changed a lot after she met someone (we call him 'Yi Pit Kai' - moustache). Dat "Yi Pit Kai' is married with either a son or two. Her former 'boyfren' is oso a married person. I've hinted to her a number of times not to get involve with married men but she took no heed.

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I sent her an email last year:

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Yup, u were correct dat I don't like him is dat he 'might be cheating' u. But since u think he's okay, I feel happy for u.

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U must know dat I've been cheated by my former SO CALLED HUSBAND so I do really know the feelings of a wife with kids. And so does June. I don't really hate him but I just want to see how he DIES! Don't tell me (his name)'s wife doesn't know about ur relationship.

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Just ask urself this question. How would u like to be in (his name)'s wife's shoes? Being cheated by a husband and knows dat he's with someone is NO NO NO SWEET feeling.

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Dat's why, if the wife knows, I don't know what kind of a woman she is. Or maybe they are 'teaming' up to 'cheat' u. If he has been divorced and be with u, it's okay. Shows dat HE's enjoying life and women have to 'suffer' for him. He can be so untruthful to his wife, he CAN be untruthful to u too.

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Those are my thoughts only, okay. Just to let u know how I feel. But no worries, we are still frens. Don't let dat hinder our frenship. JUST BE CAREFUL, okay?

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This was what she replied:

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My daer ,
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dont worry I dont need him to be with me all the time , I need a lot of space & time on my own. I am not me (her name) if I break them up- not my style (unless they want to break themselves up) , devorce is not in the picture as he believe it his responsibility too to take care of them all . If ever truth is out its up to him to convenice her our relationship.

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Thanks for your concern , I have nothing for them to cheat anyway. You must look at things positively at times. Not all are bad.

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WHAT WAS SHE TRYING TO TELL ME????? She meant to say "for him to convince her of their relationship"? Gosh! When I read dat, I was so so so disappointed with her. Meaning to say she's doing the right thing and doesn't in the least admit dat she's in the wrong. She loves to be with the man in the hiding style? Very obvious dat this man cannot be without his wife & kid and it was his responsibility to take care of his family? *feel like kicking his b..ls! and feel like slapping my fren hard on her cheeks to wake her up!* And she got the cheeks to tell me she's not trying to break the couple up (she's not the 3rd party) and to look at things positively!

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What good does she sees in him? He's not handsome, he's not rich, he's married and cannot leave his wife, he's not educated (cannot read or write in Chinese, English or Malay), only speaks in Cantonese and speaks 'broken' English and Malay. Maybe he's good in 'something' which my fren likes (ahem).

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I feel dat she's so pretentious with me nowadays, not like what she used to be when we were together before she met dat 'Yi Pit Kai'. We could, as the Chinese saying goes, wear 'a pair of pants' together. We have been frens for more than 10 years and it makes me very upset to see the change in her.

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I know it's none of my business but I really hope and pray dat my fren won't be cheated and suffer. How can the man be with another woman in the same place (in KL) and the wife knows nothing about the affair? The wife must be either 'no eyes see' (blind but she's not) or she is doing the same as what the husband is doing or she has 'tung kiok' (a bad mistake made which ppl take as an advantage to threat) which the husband is holding and she dare not 'ngek' a word about what the husband is doing ... sigh ...

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She tried to call me on my handset, I refused to pick up the call and I don't intend to call her as just yet and I DON'T THINK I WILL EVER CALL HER AGAIN (just don't have the mood to talk to her).

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I DID treasure our frenship very much but NOW ......... do u think I should 'strike' her off from my list of frens?

5 things u don't know about me

This is a back-dated post and not to disappoint Jessie.
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Was reading Jessie's post about 5 things u do not know about me and I had this hunch I will be tagged (on the other hand, I was hoping she won't tag me) but when I scrolled to see whom she tagged, I saw my name on the top! Gaks!
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Better do my homework. Sorry, Jessie, for this delay.

Let’s see, what 5 things you do not know about me…

1. I'm older than Pappy by six years and he's my 2nd husband.
   
2. I'm oredi a grandmother. My elder daughter is 29 years old (from my 1st marriage and Des is 5 years old (of course from Pappy). My cucu is a year younger than Des. My 2nd cucu is on the way.
   
3. I do not know how to drive nor do I know how to swim. *paiseh, paiseh* To Jess (Wien's and Lyon's mommy), if u are reading this, now u know why I will never get driving 'samans'. hahaha. And to bloggers, now u all know why I always turn down invitations to gatherings.
   
4. I'm a very emotional person. My eyes will automatically be filled with tears at teeny weeny upset matters.
   
5. I don't like cheese cakes and liquors (clearly states dat I don't eat cheese cakes and I don't drink).

Okie. Done. Jessie, hope I didn't let u fall from ur chair. Hahahahaha.

Full Time SAHM sooooooon!

Who else? Me! Will take up the job right after Chinese New Year and joining 'u' SAHMs out there!

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People resign from their job to be full time SAHM. For those who's blur-blur what SAHM stands for – SAHM = Stay At Home Mom. I was 'forced' to resign. *blek* I had no choice, my maid's leaving us for good on the 15th day of Chinese New Year. She had been with us for almost 5 years and it's time for me to release her to go back to take care of her family.

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Meaning to say, I won't be going online to chat as often and blogging will be lesser and lesser. *sob sob sob*

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Pappy has made up his mind not to employ another maid. Des is oredi going to kindy and is easier to take care of, moreover she needs guidance in her homework too.

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I hope I can handle the housework + cooking + taking care of Des + doing office work at home. So, wish me luck!
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And ............

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Des speaking 'ja pa lang' Malay

One of the advantages of having a maid (Indon) is dat kids will learn the Malay language without us teaching them. I love hearing Destinee speaks Melayu with her 'kakak' (maid). I'm lucky dat my maid speaks quite fluent 'Malaysian Malay' cos I've frens' Indon maids who speak with an Indon accent in which I find it difficult to understand what they are trying to say.

My maid has been with me since Des was a baby (a month old) and Des has been learning the Malay language from her. In another way, she learns English and Cantonese from Des too. So, when both of them speaks, it'll be as below:




Hahaha, very funny, rite? This clip was taken last year. Since Des has been to pre-school, her Melayu has improved and can speak and understand the language better. *clap clap clap*